Chemistry and dating

10-Jun-2020 12:54

And what most of us have discovered is that because of the intensity of these feelings, you may completely end up ignoring your partner’s bad qualities.

And he is great: cute, smart, successful, shares my religion and interests, we both value family a lot, and he is treating me like gold. For those of you who are new to this blog, one of my pet topics is the concept that chemistry is all too often an illusion.

If you’re merely tolerating him, rather than enjoying him, you’re wasting both his time and your time. Similarly, if there’s no physical chemistry – meaning, anything less than a 5 or a 6 in that department – cut him loose. You shouldn’t force yourself into believing that he’s cute because he’s nice.

You need to have some spark to start – and that spark usually grows over time after you come to love the guy.

A relationship with a 10 chemistry and a 3 compatibility is going to make you miserable.

Now, where readers have twisted my words – annoyingly, repeatedly – is by suggesting that I’ve somehow told you to give up on chemistry. Yet somehow, many readers seem to struggle with the concept of a nuanced world, instead of a black and white one where a man is either your instant soulmate or a complete turnoff.

And he is great: cute, smart, successful, shares my religion and interests, we both value family a lot, and he is treating me like gold. For those of you who are new to this blog, one of my pet topics is the concept that chemistry is all too often an illusion.

If you’re merely tolerating him, rather than enjoying him, you’re wasting both his time and your time. Similarly, if there’s no physical chemistry – meaning, anything less than a 5 or a 6 in that department – cut him loose. You shouldn’t force yourself into believing that he’s cute because he’s nice.

You need to have some spark to start – and that spark usually grows over time after you come to love the guy.

A relationship with a 10 chemistry and a 3 compatibility is going to make you miserable.

Now, where readers have twisted my words – annoyingly, repeatedly – is by suggesting that I’ve somehow told you to give up on chemistry. Yet somehow, many readers seem to struggle with the concept of a nuanced world, instead of a black and white one where a man is either your instant soulmate or a complete turnoff.

If you are looking for someone to spend your life with, you damn well need to enjoy their company day after day. In this case, I’d still give the guy a little longer than a month to make sure – it doesn’t sound like you think he’s awful, just ok.