When to start dating after losing a spouse

22-May-2020 10:40

But I've never been in that position myself, so I could be way off.

[/quote] I don't expect I will ever want to remarry if my husband dies before I do, because I don't know who could ever take my husband's place.

The timing of it is between them and their new spouse and God.

I know that sometimes, a widow and a widower remarry and bring each other comfort in their grief. They both can honor the memories of their lost spouses, while having a new love blossom between them.

I have such a hard time with the idea of remarriage after the death of a spouse at all.

It seems like such a selfish insult to their memory.

That is unfortunate and it is sad, but it is not immoral.

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Some people remarry quickly, other remarry after a long mourning, and some remain unmarried for the rest of their lives.

Having said that, I don't see any reason, since we both hope and pray that the other will be immediately taken to Paradise itself, why the survivor of our married life should pretend emotional difficulty that they don't feel, or why they should not seek comfort with an available person of the opposite sex, if that is what they want.

It is wise to refrain from doing anything rash after such a huge change in your life, because most of us are extremely vulnerable at such a time, but I would hope I won't feel insulted if my husband doesn't see that my entry into eternity as some requirement for him to spend some portion of his earthly life in the past.

Mayra Colón is a freelance writer, former independent author and avid reader.

She holds a MBA from the University of Phoenix and completed the Freelance Writing and Selling Online course from Rutgers University of Arts and Sciences.

Some people remarry quickly, other remarry after a long mourning, and some remain unmarried for the rest of their lives.

Having said that, I don't see any reason, since we both hope and pray that the other will be immediately taken to Paradise itself, why the survivor of our married life should pretend emotional difficulty that they don't feel, or why they should not seek comfort with an available person of the opposite sex, if that is what they want.

It is wise to refrain from doing anything rash after such a huge change in your life, because most of us are extremely vulnerable at such a time, but I would hope I won't feel insulted if my husband doesn't see that my entry into eternity as some requirement for him to spend some portion of his earthly life in the past.

Mayra Colón is a freelance writer, former independent author and avid reader.

She holds a MBA from the University of Phoenix and completed the Freelance Writing and Selling Online course from Rutgers University of Arts and Sciences.

Her new husband might have been in similar circumstances, and they might have known and respected each other for many years.